Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Are YOU A Liar?




Let's talk about social norms 
There is no denying that having some social norms can be beneficial to all civilization, but some social norms can hinder those of us who live on the fringe of society. 

If you are gender variant, non-binary, gender fluid, or anyone who doesn't adhere to the gender social norms of the times you know what I'm talking about. Social norms can sometimes feel restrictive, and  for a lack of better word, they can feel like a Prison.  As such, breaking "out of prison," metaphorically speaking, can be exhilarating!

To better illustrate how amazing it can feel to break out of this social construct and mental prison  let's take a look at three actresses playing the role of moms. Moms that get tired of trying to be "perfect parents." As you can see, they simply stopped caring about social norms at some point in the movie. Here's a scene that pretty much sums it up


What is this movie about? 

A woman with a seemingly perfect life - a great marriage, overachieving kids, beautiful home, stunning looks and still holding down a career. However she's over-worked, over committed and exhausted to the point that she's about to snap. Fed up, she joins forces with two other over-stressed moms and all go on a quest to liberate themselves from conventional responsibilities, going on a wild un-mom like binge of freedom, fun and self-indulgence - putting them on a collision course with PTA Queen Bee Gwendolyn and her clique of devoted perfect moms.

Here is the official trailer 

I think we can all relate to what these women are going through even if we don't have kids ourselves. It's this notion of "Keeping up with the Joneses."


In the words of sweet brown: ain't nobody got time for that.


You can keep playing to the notion of other people's perception of you, or you can slowly start introducing how you really feel, and how life really feels to you.  When you do so you'll start noticing that your interactions with people will begin to feel fresh, new, more "authentic."  As if you crossed over to another realm.  In short, you will be stepping out of the ordinary.

Now, addressing my non-binary brothers and sisters.

Who's to say how a male should act? Who's to say how a female should act?  Scientifically speaking, if it takes half the chromosomes of a man and half the chromosomes of a woman to create us are we not at least 50% entitled to act like either sex at any given moment?

We are all half man half woman!  Be fabulous and authentic in any of your gender expressions regardless of social norm. 

Sure, not everybody will celebrate or agree with your view on life and how you feel, but that simply comes with the territory of expressing one's most inner being.

if you're gender variant there is a chance someone will perceive you to be a "Trap."   That is a perception many of us have to deal with on a daily bases.  Just because they may perceive us as "lying" doesn't mean we are not expressing a part of ourselves we may not usually show to the world.

We are all always walking a fine line between expressing ourselves and being considerate for the state of mine of others, that is the true dance of being alive. 


You are Alive. Dance. Live.  Express yourself! and Let the chips fall where they may. 

You can handle anything life throws your way.