Men who cross-dress, be it straight or gay, can tell you that cross-dressing can be a dealbreaker for many partners or potential partners. It's believed that all partners want a man to be a "man." So with this popular belief how can a man who dresses as a woman find love? In the past 10 years I've had friends who have been diagnosed with HIV and/or other sexually transmitted diseases. For some, these diagnoses act as game changers in the realm of searching for love. Their bodies are now carrying something for life. This is a bit of news that will have to be disclosed to a future potential partner during the dating process. But how soon, when dating, should one tell their future partner one's STD status? How soon should a man tell their future husband or wife, "I'm a dude who enjoys wearing women's clothing from time to time?" You might be thinking am I comparing cross-dressing with an STD? Of course not, you can't catch a case of cross-dressing... well, unless you put on a pair of Christian Louboutin red heels on a Little boy. What young man can resist a red heel? The point I am trying to illustrate is that in this day and age for many people a man wearing a dress seems as bad as being diagnosed with HIV. Crossdressing can be a dealbreaker. It CAN be a dealbreaker but it doesn't HAVE TO BE. The main point here is that you are a multifaceted individual. If somebody doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship with you based on ONE aspect of your life then that person is not worth pursuing. Yes, rejection hurts, but you have to remember to take care of your first love - YOU. So if someone cannot handle your status just wish them well and move on to someone new. You never know who will show up at your doorstep with a bouquet of red heels.