Monday, May 20, 2013

How Narcissistic Are You?

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How narcissistic would you say you are from a scale of 1 to 10? Do you like the skin you are in? Do you love your God-given body?

I don't mean to pick on anyone, but have you seen the People of Walmart? I know that we all take different roads in life, some roads are rougher than others. Some roads take a toll on a person's body and overall image. We can't all walk around looking like supermodels, true. What is also true is that, as the good book says, your body is a temple and you should treat it as such.

If you follow this blog you know that on the weekends I do boy-to-girl transformations on clients. I've had a couple of clients who have mentioned that they feel narcissistic because they love the girl in the mirror that looks back at them. I don't see it as narcissism at all.

Society has embedded in their minds that a man should not dress as a women. Societal man shamming. For a man to look in the mirror and love the girlie image that is reflected back is NOT narcissistic but instead it is positive self-esteem reinforcement which can destroy the shame that society tried to put on them.  To look in the mirror and find a femme-self looking back is empowering.  It's the equivalent to saying "This is my life and I will live it the way I please."

The gender-bender, the cross-dresser, the drag queen, know who is inside the body of the girl in the mirror. The euphoria and admiration they feel when they see the image staring back at them is not narcissism but love, freedom, and courage for allowing themselves to dress their bodies in the image they've kept inside for so long.

Your body is a temple, and you are free to adorn it and adore it as you wish for as long as you have it.