Burn them Turkeys

It's that time of year again America. Families all across this great nation will be gathering to stuff their faces, watch football, and softly whisper in the next room "you know, your old uncle Pete dresses in women's clothing, shhhh don't say anything. He doesn't know we all know."

It's also the time of year when many trans and gender variant individuals either avoid their families or worse, hold back their full expression to dodge aunt Sherly’s incessant criticism and gospel thumping. She's one to talk, she's on husband number three? Quit being such a bully Sherly, surely you can see what a hypocrite you are!

The past two years have presented us with a great many challenges. Too many of you have experienced a great deal of loss. You may have lost a loved one, a job, a place and a space you used to frequent. Worst of all, you may have lost your confidence in yourself. Where is that voice that used to say “everything will be ok?” Stepping out into the word now feels foreign. Remember when you used to get all dressed up? Remember when you had goals you were working towards? How can we find ways to be thankful this year in light of all that’s happened?

You hit the reset button. You tell yourself, “you know what, I’m not going to be around my family this year unless they come around and accept me for who I am. If they have questions about my life I will gladly fill them in but if they approach me with judgment then they can stick that Turkey up their…”. Anyway, you get the point. The pandemic has taught many of us that life is too short to be putting up with people’s nonsense. You deserve better. You deserve to be happy.

So, on this “Thanksgiving” day, let us remember that research shows that more than 150 different pre-colonial Native American tribes acknowledged third genders in their communities. And that may have been a unifying feature of different pre-colonial cultures. If your family members can’t accept the fact that you have your own personal gender expression then maybe they don’t deserve to be honored with your presence this holiday season. Sometimes you just have to say “enough is enough” and burn your village to the ground (metaphorically speaking). This year let us be grateful for matches.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Addams Family Values (1993) - Wednesday's Revolt


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