Let me start by saying something you probably heard a million times, "don't judge a book by its cover."  That is an English idiom we desperately want to abide by, yet we seldom do.  Am I right or am I right?  A middle aged white women may say "Black Lives Matter" until she finds herself alone in an elevator next to a young black male, unconscious bias making her clutch her purse.  It's all fine and good when you see a burly man dressed in women's clothing eating dinner across the restaurant until you find yourself with them alone in the restroom with only a thin stall wall separating the two of you.   We want to believe that appearances shouldn't matter but the reality is they do.  

Most of us use a mirror to gage how our appearance may affect others in the world.  For many of us the image that we see reflected back does not align with the "best version of ourselves."  This dissonance can be a great source of emotional pain for many of us.  On the flip side it can also be a motivating factor which propels us to achieve our personal goals.  A goal which others may deem superficial yet to us is rooted in something deeper.  Rooted in the desire to create and bring harmony between our physical self, the way the world perceives us, and how we feel about our transient bodies.  It is at this stage we embark on a body morphing journey like a caterpillar becoming a butterfly.  Whether it be losing weight, gaining muscle, feminizing our bodies, or getting aesthetic medical procedures such as a hair transplant.  Changing our outward appearance is a universal human trait.

Today marks 41 days since I went under the knife.  I'll spare you the gruesome details that come with getting an F.U.T. medical procedure.  Lets just say "no pain no gain." I must say though the entire staff at Ziering Medical were an absolute delight.  They made the experience effortless.  

2021  photos PRE-hair transplant. hair down and hair pulled back 

Hair loss runs on both sides of my family.  For me to be 42 years old and to still have as much hair as I do is partly a miracle.  Science may have helped a bit, I admit, since I've started taking Finasteride back in 2018.  However, little-by-little I started seeing my hairline recede, especially when sporting a ponytail.  So after months and months of research and saving my pennies I decided to do something about it.  As if having my head sliced open wasn't worrisome enough COVID was on the rise hitting record number of cases leading up to surgery day.   If my medical team got sick or if I tested positive for Omicron it would have jeopardized the whole endeavor.

(top) pre-hair transplant (bottom) the day after the transplant. over 1,500 bloody hair grafts.

Back of my head where donor hair was removed 30+ stitches

The healing process has been very slow compared to the speediness of the actual procedure.  Thankfully I've not had any complications.  We are at the stage in the process where all the implanted hair follicles fall out. This is typical.  The skin is gradually going from red, to pink, to my natural skin color.  We expect the hair to show signs of "waking up" around April, with potentially some growth as early as May.  I will take some photos then for contrast.  For now, we just have to let Time do what time does best, heal. 

Whether you admit it or not you care about your hair and how it looks.  This is something Jonathan Van Ness knows very well.  In the second episode of Jonathan's new Netflix series Getting Curious they attempt to answer the age old question Why is Hair So Major?  They explore why hair is so intrinsically important to all of us, and gives us a crash course of hair throughout history.  From hair extensions 6,000 years ago, Egyptian wigs, to the multitude of hair styles in our modern world and why hair is so personal to each one of us.  Hair is not only something that covers or uncovers our head but it can also be a sign of Royalty, Social Status, Vanity, Fertility, Family, Wedlock, Uniqueness, Self expression, and can even be a Political Statement.

Jonathan is not the first to dive into the world of hair, comedian Chris Rock's 2009 documentary Good Hair takes us into the world of hair in the Black community.  A documentary made for his daughters Rock explores the good, the bad, and the ugly when it comes to hair consumerism.  Do you know where your weave comes from, chances are if it's human hair it comes from India.  

So there you have it, hair today gone tomorrow.  

***Another Hair blog entry 2017 ***

UPDATE: 04/25/22


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